I vividly remember my aunt and uncle dancing the night away at family parties. When they danced they looked like they were gliding across the floor. What I remember most was it looked like they were having the time of their lives dancing together. And each time I saw them dance, I said to myself, “I should be out there!”
My wife and I dance regularly at family parties but I wanted what my aunt and uncle had. So 3 years ago I enrolled my wife and I in social ballroom dancing lessons. And we have been dancing ever since.
The first thing we did was choose the style of dance we liked. We ended up learning a few different styles but country is our favorite. As the lessons began, we were a little bit surprised. Learning couple dancing was harder than we thought. But we learned that if you stick with it, there’s also many benefits.
Dancing is about making a connection with your partner throughout the dance. You won’t be doing a lot of talking so you have to rely on a lot of non-verbal communication. And the communication begins with your posture. This sets the tone and allows you to learn to read your partner’s non-verbal cues.
As you dance the body language will tell you when something goes right or wrong. When it’s wrong, such as stepping on your partner’s toes, expect a mean face from your significant other! When it’s right, it feels effortless and fun.
As with every good team, there are roles that each person needs to do to make the team successful. When dancing, the role of the man is to be a leader and lead the dance. This is good and bad. If something goes wrong during the dance, 90% of the time it’s the man’s fault. However, my wife says it’s the man’s fault 100% of the time, regardless! 🙂
For the women, the role is very simple. They MUST follow. Sounds easy, right? However, this can be very difficult as most women are accustomed to leading. It’s true! Don’t believe me? Ask your wives/girlfriends! But when each person does their role, that’s when the dancing begins and the magic happens.
Improves your Social Life
When you learn how to dance, you’ll practice at the dance studio. You’ll also meet new people who have the same interests and go to new places. Things you dreaded or avoided going to such as weddings, bar-mitzvahs, reunions, parties will now be something you look forward to. What better places are there to showcase your new dancing skills! And when your friends see you on the floor they will have a newfound appreciation for you. They’ll be like “DANG, what happened to them?” And you’ll immediately have dance cred.
If you’re looking to improve your communication, teamwork and social life with your partner, I highly recommend dancing lessons. It will take time but it will be worth it. And you and your partner will be dancing for a lifetime!
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